In life, I believe you live and learn. At times I think it’s important to reflect on the things that have worked, and remember to do more of them or share them so that others might find some goodness! A crazy beautiful life is a series of events, filled with a mix of joy, pain, growth and learnings. It all comes at you so fast some days .. these are some of the things I have done that have changed my life for the better.
♡ Embraced the fun parts of being a Mum, and let go of the expected stereotypes. The early years of your child’s life are precious and fleeting, I recommend doing more of the silly things while you can.
♡ Learned to say No. I do this with conviction and grace combined, it gets easier with practice!
♡ Signed up to become a part of the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy. I am a little over half way through my study with Julie Parker and the learnings, personal growth, connections and excitement about the future is all off the charts.
♡ Chosen to be authentic and honest always. Yes this has come at a cost, the costs are well worth it though, knowing that I am living a life that is a true reflection of my values.
♡ Decided that I am better off alone than in a relationship that does not feel right, or with someone who considers aggression, violence or bullying acceptable.
♡ Made the move from the corporate world to the charity sector. In the year 2000 I lost my Mum, saw the light, listened to my heart and started my career in the charity sector, one of the best decisions of my life.
♡ Admitted that I needed help .. when I realised that trying to deny I wasn’t depressed or suicidal was not going to work out well for me.
♡ Spoken up about issues that matter to me .. such as domestic violence, sexual assault and donating to charity.
♡ Embraced sleep as an essential part of my wellbeing! My 20s were mostly devoid of real sleep, I lived by the mantra that you could sleep when you’re dead. How ridiculous!
♡ Moved to the suburbs .. and as much as I miss Bondi where I lived for 20 years, the suburbs have grown on me and the ability to rebuild a life here as a single Mother has been a beautiful thing.
♡ Started blogging. In the year 2009 while I was pregnant with my little man I quietly started blogging and it has been such an amazing experience in more ways than I ever anticipated.
♡ Started screening the calls on my mobile, and not giving it the importance or urgency I used to believe was needed. I see people all the time dropping everything to check their phone every time it makes a sound. If there is an emergency you will know, if someone wants to reach you they will keep trying. Screen your calls and unless it is urgent you probably don’t need to reply to that text message straight away.
♡ Broadened my music tastes, tuned out commercial radio and listened to Triple J only. I am finding that we can be such cultural influences for our children too, give them something besides Top 40 to listen to and allow them a richer music experience, it is never too early.
♡ Painted all of my furniture white .. it seriously makes everything feel new and fresh and beautiful!
♡ Spoke at my Mother’s and all four of my grandparents funerals. It happened the wrong way around, not in the natural order of things. It was my Mother’s funeral first. I had never spoken at a funeral until then and as well as being one of the scariest things I have done, I know that it is also one of the most honourable.
♡ Decided to commit as much of my spare time as I can to volunteering.
♡ Had professional photos taken of my little man and I. Renee Bell took our photos when he was 3 years old and these photos have not stopped giving me regular joy, reflection and they also feature a lot in my blogging.
♡ Replaced our couch with a daybed, and realised that just because everyone else has their lounge room configured a certain way doesn’t mean that you have to!
♡ Committed to leading by example as a parent, and focus more on kindness, charity and wellbeing than academic achievement.
♡ Let go of what other people think of me, quite simply this will change your life in more ways than you can imagine. Remember that what other people think of you is none of your business.
♡ Realised that the more you give, the more you get.