Life Lessons shared are some of the most beautiful ways we can connect as human beings, don’t you think? I have learned that sharing your own lessons can bring meaning into your darkest times too. If you can look back with a sense of reflection, and focus on the growth rather than the pain, the life lessons will become an essential part of your healing during life’s toughest times.
These 5 Life Lessons have been on my mind lately:
1 – What other people think of you is none of your business
I saw this one in action (again) this week in a professional setting.People will always judge you, even if they know little or nothing about you. Sad but true for so many humans, judgement still just happens. It can hurt, if you let it.
It has been one of the greatest lessons and sources of freedom for me to let go of wondering what other people think of me. I have also trained myself to let go of knowing what other people think of me. Even if I do happen to have this thrown in my face, I don’t allow it to affect me. Yes it takes time and practice, yes it is well worth the effort! It just doesn’t matter, it is none of your business. The way that others form their judgements and opinions about you has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. This is why it is none of your business!
2 – Parenting is Personal
You are the best possible parent for your child. Remember this when someone questions or judges you. Parenting in our somewhat chaotic times is fraught with doubts and relentless sources of information coming at us. It can be overwhelming, and we tend to be incredibly hard on ourselves. When others judge us, this can make things seem even harder.
Focus on the moments that seem to flow, the things that work best for you and your family. If you can turn down the ‘noise’ from outside and instead tune into your own knowing (it is there!) you may feel a little less overwhelmed.
3 – Giving More = Getting More
I am trying to explain and demonstrate this one to my 7 year old at the moment, it is not easy! He is still quite self absorbed, in the developmental sense. It is fascinating to see him react to this concept, it really shows that it turns everything we know completely on its head.
For so long we have been taught that the more we have, the happier we will be. We have been told to work harder, earn more and accumulate as much as possible to achieve contentment. It turns out that this doesn’t work. In reality, by giving more we find contentment and joy. If there is one thing I know about happiness, it’s that having a focus on how you can give more of your heart and soul to the world will come back to you in ways you can’t even imagine.
4 – Make Time for Alone Time
Especially if you parent, this lesson has the potential to hugely improve your emotional wellbeing. It is not selfish, a sign of loneliness and nor is it a luxury to prioritise alone time. In fact, alone time is an essential part of self care.
The process of being with your own feelings, learning to enjoy your own company and honouring your need to process … this is the beauty and richness of alone time.
5 – You’re Not a Tree
Kinda obvious yes … let me explain. If there is something in your life that you don’t like, change it. If you don’t like where you live or work, move, you’re not a tree.
I recently packed up our home (aka our world) and moved us out of Sydney. It was tough, exhausting and I shed many tears. It was also a chance to initiate change in a spiritual sense for us. Have you noticed a sense of being stuck? It could mean that you need to look at ‘where you are’ in every sense of this concept.
Has a life lesson become clear to you lately, share it here and add to the collective lessons.