Five Steps to Peaceful Decision Making by Meg Garrido:
You love your children, of course you do. Perhaps staying at home with them is all you ever wanted to do, or maybe you are missing going to work and contributing your skills and knowledge to the workplace. It could be that you think you would like to work part time but you are worried about putting your child into childcare.
The options are endless. What do you do .. and what do you do with your children each day? I recently read an article which stated:
“The most important factors contributing to a Mother’s happiness and life satisfaction are not really about whether they are at home or in an office, its about whether or not they have made a mindful choice.”
Here are five tips to help you move through the decision making process and find peace of mind:
♡ Identify all of the options
It is empowering if you are able to make a fully informed decision by laying out all of the options for consideration. There will be many in most situations, some with no immediate appeal however it is helpful to acknowledge them all.
♡ Know what you really want
Spend some time being very clear about what it is that you really want to do, not what you think you should do or what others expect you to do. Deep down in your own heart what will make you happy?
♡ Think through all of the pros and cons
Now you have considered all of the options and identified what it is you really want, you should make a list of the pros and cons of your favoured option. It is important to make sure that you have the support you will need, that financially you are able to proceed and that the logistics of your decision are viable.
♡ Make your decision. Commit. Communicate.
When you reach the stage of having an option that you are happy with and that works for you and your family you need to make a firm commitment to the decision. Avoid procrastinating and ensure that fear is not going to delay your decision. Make the choice and to prevent any further wavering, communicate your decision. Start talking to the people who you will need to work with to make it happen and also to your critical support network.
♡ Don’t over think your decision
Focus on moving forward now that your decision is made and has been communicated. Enjoy the happiness that comes with this mindful process, celebrate the support you have around you. Don’t be rocked by those who don’t agree, or by the moments when you may have a wobble. Don’t allow yourself to keep analysing your decision and avoid talking about your decision or your worries repeatedly. This type of over thinking is not productive.
Know that there will be challenges along the way and there will be times when it will be hard for you to remember why you made your decision. Other people can play a big role in making you feel guilty about the decisions you have committed to.
Having gone through a thorough and mindful process as outlined in these steps, you will always have somewhere to return for reassurance. Remember what it is that you really wanted and how you came to your decision.
It is also important to remember that change can be difficult and to give yourself time to adjust. Treat yourself with kindness while you are in the process of implementing any major decisions. Lean on your support network and ensure that you take some time out for yourself during these busy and demanding periods in your life.
Guest Post Author: Meg Garrido
Meg is the Founder of Playroom to Boardroom, a community for working Mums and those planning to return to the workforce. Meg’s background is in corporate finance and she has qualifications in economics, accountancy, primary school teaching and personal training.
Meg enjoys keeping fit, reading and speaking on topics she is passionate about. Meg has two daughters, Violet aged 5 and Jasmine aged 3.
I was so pleased to hear from Meg recently and to learn more about her vision to support and encourage working Mums, the more places and resources we have to connect and inspire each other the better!