Single Parenting is not what most of us pictured as young girls .. when you dreamt about a wedding and babies and happily ever after. The reality is that almost half of all marriages end in divorce, not all relationships will last, life is complicated. It is not your place to judge anyone who sits outside of the traditional family model. In fact, if I can give you any advice at all it would be to accept and embrace the richness of different modern families.
Single Parenting is most definitely an art. It is also utterly exhausting at times, and it varies so much from one home to another. The circumstances behind all family models are varied and a huge dose of acceptance and non judgement will go a long way! If you are a single parent, if you know a single parent, if you were raised by a single parent .. then you will most likely have your own very unique experiences.
I find that this topic creates a lot of engagement when I share my feelings and my truths. I believe that this topic needs more exposure, and that single parents need more support and less judgement. My circumstances are complex enough, my challenges are ongoing, and I need your unconditional acceptance. It was not my intention to parent solo, it was a decision that I made and whole heartedly stand by though, life often has other plans for us than those which we map out.
It really doesn’t change things if you resist ‘what is’ in life, become toxic, give in to the negative and generally just lose your shit. It is OK to do this temporarily if you find yourself somewhere you had no intention of being, pick yourself up and take the steps to move forward as soon as you can though. Yes single parenting is one of the hardest things you can imagine, as a parent. It does not compare to many others though, like chemo, or an earthquake. It can be done with strength, maturity and dignity.
the art of Single Parenting is a little ‘project’ that I hope will connect and unite as many single parents as possible. I have a lovely little Facebook group set up to connect with others who want to share their experience and support each other. As someone who is a single parent, who was raised by single parents, who has had a Step Mother and who has been a Step Mother .. I bring a lot of well rounded experience to this topic!
Watch this space for my next post in the series sharing some of the things that I have learned as a single parent xx